Strategy is everything when you are going through a divorce. That’s why it’s so vital to rein in your social media usage during the pendency of the divorce proceedings.
Does that mean that you have to permanently shutter your Twitter account and bid permanent adieu to Facebook? No, not at all. But it does mean that, at least for the time being, you will lower your social media profile and think twice before posting online.
Read on to see how online postings and other actions can trip you up in a divorce.
Drinking and posting
While this is never a good idea, when you are going through a divorce and may have the custody of your children at stake, this can have catastrophic results. Remember, deleting a post later doesn’t get rid of it. All it takes is one screenshot and you’re compromised.
Changing your relationship status online
If there’s one way to get tongues wagging, it’s to change your Facebook status from “married” to “separated.” There is no need to share this change with your online cronies, at least not until the ink is dry on your divorce decree. After all, it’s nobody’s business. Posting the changes may humiliate your soon-to-be ex and make the divorce far more difficult than it needs to be.
Bashing your ex
Yes, everyone needs to vent sometimes, but save it for your Waukegan family law attorney, your therapist or your best friend. Announcing your spouse’s shortcomings online might be tempting but it can also be quite damaging.
This is especially true if you and your ex share children, even if they are not old enough to go online. One day they will be — and the internet is forever.
Married couples often have access to each other’s email or social media accounts. Sometimes, during a divorce, a spouse might forget to change passwords. If the other spouse knows the password, they may still be able to access the accounts.
That can land you in legal hot water if you get caught. It can certainly brew ill will between you and your ex and make it much harder to compromise on important aspects of the divorce. Resist this temptation at all costs.
The internet can be a wonderful thing and it can be a cesspool. Being mindful of your online actions (and interactions) when you are in the midst of divorce can allow you to get through the process with your dignity intact and your head held high.