If you wish to keep your Illinois children’s issues civil and amicable, then you will have to work with your spouse to create a parenting plan for your children. It can be difficult to work with a spouse, especially if the marriage is not ending on the best note, but to have an uncontested divorce, you have to come together and figure things out.
A solid parenting agreement requires give and take from both of you. Many things can help move the process along and make things easier for you. Here are three tips to help with the process.
- Get ready to compromise
You have to go into discussions armed with your position, but ready to compromise. While you should have legal representation, you also need to understand that decisions come down to you and your ex-spouse; you have to work together and negotiate. Expect to compromise and make changes in your life to accommodate the parenting plan.
- Stay practical
The parenting plan does not only outline who the children will be with at any given time or who is responsible for getting them to and from school and other events. The plan should also cover important possibilities, such as moving out of state, what to do when one of you cannot follow the plan, how to modify the plan in the future and other similar considerations. The key to these negotiations is to know your priorities; both parties need to stay flexible not getting too specific with demands.
- Always focus on the children
Above all else, when creating your plan, consider your children’s needs above your own. Consider that they would likely want to spend time as equally as possible with you and the other parent. Think about activities they enjoy. Think about the responsibilities you and the other parent have. Then ask yourself how you can create a plan to allow everyone’s schedules to avoid forcing your children to have to make changes to their existing schedules.
Your children are the innocent parties here. Even though you and the other parent are no longer together, they still deserve and need relationships with both of you.