Divorce often occurs after a couple discusses their differences, tries counseling and agrees to end the marriage. However, many times one spouse is caught off guard when the other announces intentions to leave. It may be even more of a shock to learn that one’s spouse has been planning divorce for months or even years. Since January is a common time for divorce filings, it’s possible that many Illinois spouses will be on the lookout for signs that a spouse is ready to go.
Whether a spouse is reluctant to hurt his or her partner or simply wants a head start, it is not unusual for an unhappy husband or wife to begin making plans and taking steps to end the marriage long before filing any papers. This may include taking a sudden interest in the family budget, stashing money away or becoming more private about finances. A spouse who stops discussing long-term plans or suddenly changes the passwords on bank accounts or devices may be taking steps to build a separate life.
More personally, a husband or wife may notice a partner becoming less connected. A spouse who is no longer interested in a partner’s daily routine or hopes for the future may not see a future together. Certainly, a spouse who shows no affection or who is suddenly concerned about his or her own appearance may be indicating a desire to break free.
For Illinois couples with kids, one spouse may notice the other showing more attention than usual to the children. This may suggest plans to engage in a custody battle and to be seen as the better parent. In a marriage that is already unsteady, recognizing these and other signs that a spouse may be considering divorce may be a good reason to seek legal advice for one’s own protection.