You and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse began finalizing your child custody plan, and you want to ensure that you spend as much time as possible with your child. Have you heard of the right of first refusal?
Right of first refusal is a parenting and child custody concept to help divorced parents feel connected to their children. It can help you protect your right to remain part of your child’s life.
Breaking down right of first refusal
By including the right of first refusal in your custody plan, you and your child’s other parent agree to contact each other first when you need a babysitter. It does not matter if you plan an outing or have an emergency, the right of first refusal encompasses both. Only after either of you passes on the opportunity to watch your child may you or the other parent contact a babysitter, relative, friend or someone else to watch your daughter or son.
The upsides of right of first refusal
One of the greatest advantages of the right of first refusal is it allows parents to spend more time with their children. You may also enjoy scheduling flexibility by including the right in your parenting plan. Even if you cannot watch your child, you may ask who the other parent contacts next, giving you a better idea of the people watching your son or daughter.
The downsides of right of first refusal
If you and the other parent do not communicate well with each other, the right of first refusal may do more harm than good. Even if you communicate, vague messages and intentions may prove more frustrating than helpful.
Do you feel the right of first refusal may benefit you? Think of the possibilities for yourself, your shared child and the other parent.